Ideal Living - Winter 2009

I had consumed, but for some reason I found myself myself. I filled in all of the blanks and scrambled to get on the eHarmony website. You can see what’s coming, some images up. It was not immediately apparent how can’t you? Free profile… altered state of mind… just important all of this was until later. Suffice it to say sign on and answer these questions. So I did, and the that filling out the “About Me” questionnaire honestly time between that decision and today has been filled and posting several pictures made a big difference in with excitement, anticipation and delight. getting some interesting matches.

Once I filled out the questionnaire for my free

Personality Profile, things moved along quickly. The re- How eHarmony Works
sults came back within seconds and, as I was reading Getting to know how eHarmony (eH) works was a
about all of my positive qualities, lot of fun.
seven e-mails showed up in my There are two ways to communicate on eH. The
Inbox. They all had the subject first, called Fast Track, allows you to immediately send
line “We Have a Match for You!” complete e-mails within eHarmony’s anonymous
This was somewhat unexpected, communication system. The second way, Guided
as I had not paid anything yet. Communication, eventually reaches the same stage,
Sure enough my eHarmony (eH) but does so by using a step-by-step process.
homepage had seven matches for Guided Communication begins with five multiple-
me under the My Matches tab. choice questions that are selected from a list of 57
There was a lot of information suggestions. What is your idea of adventure? How many
abouteachperson…butnopicture. books did you read last year? What is your idea of a
To get a picture, I had to be an eHarmony member, and romantic time? What style of dress do you prefer? How
the price was… $$$. trusting are you? eH prompts the first four answers and
I paid for one month. The Scotch might have given leaves the last one as a “fill in the blank.” Both questions
me enough courage to get this far, but I wanted to hold and answers are geared to help get to know the other
Dr. Warren accountable for some results. I wanted to see person, and they work nicely with the “About Me”
those pictures! information already shared. After answering, your
Of course, getting all of this information about match can respond with five questions for you.
potential matches meant that I had to share some After getting to know each other a little bit through
information about myself as well. eHarmony poses 13 these questions and answers, the process turns its focus
questions so that an“About Me” profile can be generated. to the Ten Must Haves and the Ten Can’t Stands. To
These are separate from the Personality Profile they quote from the eH website, “In Dr. Warren’s book, How
provide for free. eH also asked me to post pictures of To Know If Someone Is Worth Pursuing In Two Dates Or

Free profile... altered state of mind... just sign on and answer these questions. So I did, and the time between that decision and today has been filled with excitement, anticipation and delight.